Setting boundaries and letting go

For the past year, I’ve been going to therapy to address changes, challenges and areas of my life and myself that I can improve. I had neglected therapy for a few years, so getting back to it felt like starting over and re-visiting sensitive topics that I had pushed away for a long time.

Therapy really helped me prepare emotionally for my operation, and all the changes that would come with it, but it wasn’t the most important topic I wanted to tackle. Setting boundaries and letting go are two of the most important challenges that I’ve been working on.


I’ve always struggled with setting boundaries for myself and for others. There has been a constant need in me to please people and solve problems, with little to no thought of how that could possibly impact me. It has happened with all kinds of relationships, and work.

As I’ve gotten older, my body and emotions have given me signals of how not setting certain boundaries have been affecting me. Not sleeping well, being in a constant state of fear, not being able to enjoy things I did in the past, and other feelings that let me know that I was being truly affected by my surroundings and my inability of setting boundaries.

It has taken time, and I still have work to do, but I’ve been establishing limits for myself and trying to find a balance within myself, and how I respond to possible triggers.

Letting go

This goes in hand with the topic of boundaries. I dare to say that letting go has actually been harder than setting boundaries. Letting go of the past, of people that hurt me, of events (that in hindsight were out of my control) and other challenges that have stayed in my heart and soul and have been consuming it slowly, but surely.

Once you start letting go, it truly is a liberating feeling. There are certain aspects that I still need to work on with my therapist. I’m grateful that I’ve gotten to the point where I can now hear about topics that would have sent me to a downward spiral of great pain in the past.

Taking care of your mental health is so important. I don’t want to live my life with regret. So getting the help I need, stepping out of my comfort zone and accepting aspects of my life that need changing is something that I’m taking very seriously.

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